Sunday, November 10, 2013

Dreams, gardens, and calendars

"If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them." - Henry David Thoreau

Who among us does not have at least one calendar going?  Whether it's for work or personal appointments, I have it marked somewhere to ensure I maintain my obligations.   But what about for both achieving and maintaining those castles in the air?  Isn't a calendar one of the bricks in that foundation?

One of my resolutions is to both create a householder calendar and then, of course, stick to it.

I both hate discipline and thrive on it.  As I've gotten older I have accepted the place discipline has in fulfilling one's dreams.  Having played both baseball and basketball, I grew to hate discipline.  The scheduled practices seemed to based more on fear than improvement.  Yet, on my own time I took playing sports seriously and trained.   I hated going to the gym to lift weights, even when I saw a noticeable difference in my physique.  I did it because I knew if I didn't get stronger and better, someone out there was.

Once I was finished playing, having been devoured by athletic Darwinism, I experienced a great deal of relief not being tethered to a practice and game schedule.  Once I stopped playing I had a tough time committing to anything.  Rather than understanding that through discipline I may have maxed out my athletic promise, I saw the investment of time not worth it.   As new dreams replaced the ones of being a professional athlete, it was easier to live in dreams of hope and wanting - never willing to risk and see if they could be obtained.  In my mind I had already failed once.

This devastated my life in my twenties - I wanted to achieve things, but I did not do my share in order to obtain them, as if success would depend on luck alone.  I had to re-learn that discipline could create a richer life.  This had to be the foundation from which all would be built.

My mid-life crisis centers around living a richer life, not necessarily financially.  Living more sustainably and closer to my morality are two steps closer to that.  I've gardened long enough to know that to achieve the garden I want, I must put my share of work into it.  My goal is to eventually provide enough vegetables to feed my wife and me through the year.  Yet, if I don't create a quantifiable schedule, I know I will fail.  It's really what my coaches told me all along  - success is where preparation and opportunity meet.

One of my first excursions into the gardening blog world was www.awaytogarden.com by Margaret Roach.  She has monthly chores that can help keep a gardener on task.  They've been helpful and have used them as a guide to inform my own chores around the house.  Another blog I follow closely is the http://www.waldeneffect.org.  Anna Hess is currently selling a homesteading calendar that was just posted today.  Either one of these websites have been helpful guides.


No, my garden isn't a game that is about winning or losing.  Rather, I'm viewing it as play, which is always more fun.  If it all fails, I will have enough money to feed myself.  If it all goes bad, as it sometimes does, I have ask myself the first tough questions - did I give the garden the time it deserved.  Moving towards a life that needs a foundation built, I am not accountable to a coach or team, but to myself and living in a manner that is more in concert with my soul.

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